This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently. Since I’ve begun to share more and more of my personal life and my opinions and my funny little quirks with the world, whether that’s on my 2019 online journal Instagram account (very originally named @my2019diary), on this very blog, or even to my best friends, I’ve realized that while it may take specific burdens off my shoulders, it consequently leaves a burden in their place.
Which poses the following question: When does sharing become too much?
When does an intended confidence boost cross the seemingly fine line into vanity? I wish I had an answer. But like you, like everyone in this modern age, I’m bumbling on (completely naively) and learning about both myself and the world around me as I go.
Our society is in a state of constant fluctuation. It’s always changing, as are politics, technology, and everything else. I mean, today my boyfriend told me that a company is working on an instant ironing device that presses your clothes so that you can avoid putting in any effort (and avoid potentially burning holes into your clothes at the same time, so maybe there’s an upside…) But how crazy is that!
My point is, everything is changing. The world won’t be slowing down anytime soon, especially if social media continues in the direction it’s headed. I’m not putting it down in the slightest, because without it I wouldn’t be writing these blog posts, but truly… When does sharing become oversharing?
I hate the idea of boring people with my content, but even more, I hate the idea that in producing such content, I could be putting myself at the risk of spiraling down a rabbit hole of narcissism. It’s not that I think incredibly highly of myself, because I don’t. Not in the slightest. Some people out there do, and as a result, run the risk of appearing vain online when they’re posting for all the wrong reasons.
Maybe that’s the moment when the line is crossed. See, there’s being confident and content, and then there’s being conceited — and maybe that’s where the difference between sharing a personal story that your audience might relate to, and unnecessarily spilling every single brazen, unwanted detail to others online, lies.
Perhaps, in the end, it all boils down to intent, and how we want people to see us. I, for one, want to be seen as the opposite of self-involved, whereas I’m sure some others simply don’t care. For some people, it’s all about the next like. The next comment, the next follower, the next dollar. But there’s a good reason I don’t do blogging for money. Maybe one day, if I get really strapped for cash, I’ll consider it, but only ever with the best intentions at heart.
I blog — I share — in the hopes that someone, even if it’s just one person, might relate to the content I post. I share so that maybe, just maybe, I can make a difference in the world — or in one person’s world (that’s enough for me for now). I share so that others might then have the courage to do the same. I share to raise awareness, I share to promote love and acceptance, I share to feel that little excited flip of my stomach every single time I press the PUBLISH button.
I share to feel connected and real, in a world I fear is becoming the exact opposite.
I’d love to hear your guys’ thoughts on this. Do you ever get worried about oversharing / appearing vain online? If so, how do you combat these feelings? And what’s your opinion on sharing vs. oversharing?